Saturday, August 20, 2011

greatness. pure greatness.

i have to say, this video made me laugh every single time i watched it. 
i have the coolest brother in the world. 

Friday, August 19, 2011

7 beliefs of super happy people.

1. You are okay.
You are as you are, with all your limits, with all your faults, the good and the bad. You have the right to exist and be happy.

2. Your life is no accident.
Your life has a meaning: it might be humble, it might be great, it might be rational, or it might be totally weird! No needs to explain it: it just makes sense.

3. You can choose the life you want.
You can enjoy what you have and change what you don’t like.

4. Your past is okay.
There are things your are proud of, and maybe others you wish you hadn’t done. There are periods in which life has treated you well, and others in which you felt so very unlucky. All is all part of your story, all is part of who you are.

5. Your present is interesting.
This crazy thing called life is so damned interesting!

6. Your future is bright.
Things will turn out well. If anything bad happens, you will cope with it and you will find a way to learn from experience.

7. You are loved.
Loneliness is just a state of mind: if you close your eyes, love is all around you! 

sometimes, we just need a reminding.

Monday, August 15, 2011

kurt vonnegut's understanding for drama in our lives.

Kurt Vonnegut explained a few years ago how the path of our life works, what we need and how to live  in a lecture he spoke at in New York. He also explained  why people have such a need for drama and sometimes self-destructed intensity in their everyday life.
He said, “People have been hearing fantastic stories since time began. The problem is, they think life is supposed to be like the stories. Let's look at a few examples.
He drew an empty grid on the board, like this:
empty grid
Time moves from left to right. Happiness from bottom to top.
He said, “Let's look at a very common story arc. The story of Cinderella.”
Cinderella story
It starts with her awful life with evil stepsisters, scrubbing the fireplace. Then she get an invitation to the ball! Things look up. Then the fairy godmother makes her a dress and a coach. Even better! Then she goes to the ball, and dances with the prince! This is great! But then it's midnight. She has to go. Oh no. Sadness. Back to her humdrum life scrubbing the fireplace. But it's not as bad as before, because she's had this encouraging experience. Then, the prince finds her, and the happiness factor is off the chart! Happily ever after.
People LOVE that story! This story arc has been written a thousand times in a thousand tales. And because of it, people think their lives are supposed to be like this.
He wiped the board clean and said, “Now let's look at another popular story arc: the disaster.”
disaster story
It's an ordinary day in an ordinary town. But something horrible happens! A child falls down a well! The whole town gathers to save her. Old grudges surface, but are belittled in the light of this tragedy. Rifts are bonded as people work together. The child is saved, and all is well. But notice it's a little better than it was before, now that this incident has brought them all closer together.
People LOVE that story! This story arc has been written a thousand times in a thousand tales. And because of it, people think their lives are supposed to be like this.
But the problem is, life is really like this...
real life
Our lives drifts along with normal things happening. Some ups, some downs, but nothing to go down in history about. Nothing so fantastic or terrible that it'll be told for a thousand years.
But because we grew up surrounded by big dramatic story arcs in books and movies, we think our lives are supposed to be filled with huge ups and downs! So people pretend there is drama where there is none.
That's why people create fights. That's why we're drawn to sports, and disgustingly dramatic tv shows. That's why we act like everything that happens to us is such a big deal. We feel that need for such high highs and low lows, to make our lives feel a little more valid.
But, our lives can be enriched and lived passionately if we just exchanged our hunger of drama for a thirst of fulfillment