brené brown researched what it is that provokes shame and fear in our lives, and discovered that those two emotions have been two of the biggest barriers to connection in our lives. after watching this video, i started thinking about the connections i have in my life, from the big- like my connection to my vincent, my closest friends throughout the years like cheyb, harmony, lisa, jan; to the littlest connections: like jim, a regular at java.
every connection in my life has added a layer of value to my life, i don't believe i'd be who i am without the people in my life. but, it took me along time to understand that, because for so long- i didn't feel i deserved these connections. if you believe you aren't worthy, that someone isn't right or normal or okay with you, you hide behind the fear of being unloved. it boils down to the idea that we accept the love we think we deserve.